I am a vegetarian; I don’t consume any animal products other than dairy. There are a large number of Indians and citizens of other countries who are vegetarians or vegans. Being vegetarian is a choice, and no one should have a problem with it. It is as normal as being a non-vegetarian, which is also a personal choice.

Two incidents made me wonder if there is something unusual about me. The first incident that got me thinking happened during one of my visits to Jaipur. I saw a camel limping because the owner had tied its front legs. You don’t need to be Einstein to understand that the owner of the camel wanted to keep its movement in check, so that it wouldn’t go very far. Camels are expensive and have to be kept safe. There could be better ways to do that. But on my part, if I knew camel language, I would have gone to the camel and explained to it that it can survive very well without its owner. I am sure the camel was fed on whatever grew in the desert; it is not that the owner’s wife cooked fresh food for it  every day. The camel could live an independent life without a rope in its nostrils and its legs tied. The point is that I was only concerned about the camel, not the human who owned it.

The second incident was when I was watching the superhit Shahrukh khan film, ‘My name is Khan’. During the hurricane sequence in the film, where they depicted so much destruction and human misery, I was worried for a hen sitting on the top of the Church, trembling and shivering in the storm. I am sure the director placed the hen on the terrace to create a dramatic effect.The purpose of the scene was to move people with human misery, not just of hens.

I wondered why I am so sensitive to animal lives. It has something to do with my childhood. I grew up in an environment where every living being was considered sacred, not just one particular animal. I once saw my father’s aunt do a very adorable thing. She was about 80 years old. Someone accidentally stepped on an insect, and she very affectionately recited a few mantras in its ears. I am saying in its ears because she went very close to the insect, and not because I have ever seen an insect’s ears. I was very curious and asked her what it was for? She told me, it would help find the insect a better life in its next incarnation. At the age of 4 or 5, I had found that very endearing, because I had never witnessed anything like that before. In my school and neighbourhood, I had seen spoiled brats intentionally stepping on insects, instead of walking a little away from them, which disturbed me. The sight of a crushed snail shell is an ugly sight. 

I once had a sleepless night because I had seen a few young boys from our neighbourhood, stoning a poor chameleon to death. The chameleon was later buried with ‘full state honours’, by the boys, but that didn’t help me. I got over it after some other sensational instance like this one happened, or maybe my mother counselled me, I don’t remember clearly.

Choosing to eat or not eat non-vegetarian food is not just about love for animals. There are so many other factors that come into play. A dear friend of mine who was born into a vegetarian family turned non-vegetarian after marriage. I was curious to know if the change was easy for her. I was surprised by her answer. She chose to change her dietary choices to fight patriarchy. In her husband’s family women were dissuaded from eating non-vegetarian food. She was told that non-vegetarian food stimulates passion and increases aggressive behaviour in women. It was a ploy to make women sacrifice their portions for men. She refused to be dictated by patriarchal norms or stereotypes. Gradually she started enjoying the flavours and textures of meat. She cooks and eats various styles of cooking non-vegetarian food. 

Cultural norms and traditions influence dietary preferences. In many cultures meat is a very important part of traditional cuisines. It is associated with celebrations and festivities. Caste too significantly impacts food choices in India. Historical and social factors have influenced dietary practices. Affordability and occupation too are important factors in the choice of food.  

You do what your religion or culture tells you to do, don’t decide for others. We need to get our priorities right. Being sensitive towards animals is humane. Everyone should be concerned about the well-being of animals. Take good care of animals, and feed them a diet suitable for their well-being. One should not be paranoid about it, is my point. You get your protein from lentils and paneer, someone else gets it from meat and eggs. Imposing food choices is unacceptable. Let people decide what they want to eat. All living beings have to adapt to the geographical and climatic conditions to survive. Imagine someone living in Siberia, Alaska, or some other cold area on earth surviving on plant food. They can maybe, in the present day and age, with all the modern transportation facilities available. A century ago, it wouldn’t have been possible.

The reasons for dietary choice may be different, the fact is that living beings are all interconnected through the ecological pyramid. Everything in nature is either consumed or it consumes. Nature’s cycle of growth, decay, and renewal is about the transfer of energy and matter. Plants convert sunlight into energy through photosynthesis, animals consume plants or other animals. Decomposers break down dead organisms. No food is possible without violence because anything that eats is eaten. A continuous cycle of energy transfer and transformation happens in nature. A tiger or lion cannot eat grass; it has to kill to survive. Vegetarianism too is not possible without killing because farming involves clearing jungles that destroy the homes of thousands of species and kill millions of living beings in the soil, shrubs and trees.

Whatever critics or certain religions might say, but I am a great believer in the theory of evolution. I see that happening everywhere, gradually but surely. I can’t claim to witness the evolution from ape to man in my lifespan but changes are taking place around us all the time. We need to accept that, and move out of our childhood stories.

Photos and text by Prerna Jain.


6 responses to “Mary had a little lamb… Some people think it is delicious…”

  1. deepikashergill Avatar

    Great read, Prerna ..as always.

    Makes me think of us three women – ma, sis and I.

    Mom been a vegetarian all her life. She eats egg though. Born into a Brahmin family ..married to a Sardar. There been no expectation from her to start eating meat. Tues n Thurs ..no meat was cooked in the house ..else it was a very non-veg household. She cooked mutton though for the family. And ..it was her husband who ensured the ‘meat cooking’ apparatus (bartan, kadchi) in the kitchen was separate from other bartans. Out of respect for her. At her 88 ..she continues to be a veg. Choice, habit.

    Sister grew up in a household where it was mutton on the table almost every day. She turned vegetarian at 12. Her didi (me) had quit non-veg (22, married) and she followed suit. She married a sikh again ..who devoured non-veg. 26 years married already n lived in Dubai, HK, S’pore ..she continues being a vegetarian. Her choice is respected.

    Me ..again brought up on a staple diet of mutton (chicken was rare then ..1960s, 1970s) ..just went off non-veg at 22 (a year into being married). Was recovering from a heavy med regime of steroids (eye accident) ..and non-veg just went off my choice. No egg too. I just woke up one morning – Dil nahin hai, to khana nahin hai.
    Remained a vegetarian for 26 years. Choice. Dil hi nahin tha. Did not miss it. Cooked for the family tho – the boys grew up on a staple diet of chicken.

    Was when was cooking chicken for the now 25 yo in-residence firstborn ..that wanted to ‘chakho’ it. The doc son figured was the body craving protein now. Was a few months later ..that I returned to being a non-veg with a bang. Chicken Wings, Lemon Fish and Rogan Josh ..all in one day.

    Devoured ..savoured 15 years now since. But ..do detect a bit of weaning off again. Maybe ..will go off it.
    Maybe not. Will be a choice again.

    1. Prerna Avatar

      Thank you Deepika for taking out time to read my post and generously appreciating it. Thank you for sharing the amazing food choice story of your family. Once again confirming my belief that food is a personal choice and should not be forced on anyone.

  2. catchupgirl Avatar

    I have always shared your empathy for life, Prerna, no matter its form – insect, reptile or mammal. Perhaps that is why I enjoyed reading your piece immensely. In my family non-vegetarians and vegetarians co-exist, always have, still do and I guess, always will. It does make cooking more complex as a greater variety has to be provided at each family meal. Again, this is something that I have been doing for decades. Of course, on many an occasion, I was happy to eat dahi-bhaat while the rest of the family including maids ate fish curry-rice. Much to the consternation of my maids who were convinced I would fall ill through malnutrition. My mother’s story – too long to share here, is the loving story of a pure vegetarian who voluntarily cooked for her family without ever tasting what she cooked, all the while praying to god to take away her sense of smell (it disappeared within a year of her beginning cooking non-veg and never returned).Probably imbibing my parents’ concern for all life…. I still routinely ‘rescue’ snails, earthworms, slugs, centipedes from our driveway each morning-evening, so no one steps on them. Of course, accidents happen and it does pain me to step on a snail shell – it’s a horrible sound. At home, lizards and geckos are routinely ‘shooed’ out of the house rather than killed; shrews and rats are trapped and released in parks far away from home. I hate using poison or those sticky pads as they are very cruel. And our mali thinks I’m quite mad as I once asked him why I had not spotted garden lizards for sometime. They help control insects and hence play an important role in the ecosystem. I just wanted to ensure he wasn’t spraying insecticide at will. Kindness to all creatures, (including humans, especially those less privileged than us) is a value I wish we could instil from an early age in all children, irrespective of creed, caste, religion or nationality.

  3. Prerna Avatar

    Thank you for reading the post and sharing your thoughts. Thank you for sharing the extraordinary story of your mother, her beliefs, and her respect for the food choices of other family members. You have inherited that from her.

    “And our mali thinks I’m quite mad as I once asked him why I had not spotted garden lizards for some time.” This shows your love for nature.

  4. aaroh Avatar

    Your article on the choices between vegetarian and non-vegetarian food is indeed insightful. As a follower of Jain philosophy, I would like to share a perspective from our tradition.

    In Jainism, food is regarded as more than just sustenance; it is believed to influence one’s mind, thoughts, and belief system. The principle of Ahimsa (non-violence) guides many of us to adopt a vegetarian lifestyle, as it aims to minimize harm to living beings. Moreover, food is often categorized as Sattvic (pure, light, and conducive to clarity of mind) and Tamasic (heavy, dulling, and potentially agitating). Sattvic foods, typically plant-based and fresh, are considered to support mental peace and spiritual growth, whereas Tamasic foods, often including meat and heavily processed items, are believed to disturb inner balance.

    Humans have the unique ability to make conscious choices about their food—unlike animals, whose diets are largely determined by instinct and anatomy. Food, at its core, is meant to satisfy hunger and maintain health, not to cause unnecessary harm. From this perspective, mindful eating becomes a way to live in harmony with both our physical needs and our ethical values.

    I respect that dietary preferences are personal and shaped by culture, health, and individual beliefs. Your article contributes to meaningful dialogue on how food connects with both our physical well-being and our values.

    1. Prerna Avatar

      “I respect that dietary preferences are personal and shaped by culture, health, and individual beliefs.” Yes, let people decide for themselves.

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